Oh Lord, purify me, make me a chalice in which you dwell, offer your sacrifice in me and spread your love through me. Let me shine like gold, adorn me with the jewels of virtue that I may always be open to you. Fill me. Overflow me. Let me be like that most perfect vessel, the Singular Vessel of Devotion, She to whom I cry for protection against the Evil One. I ask this for your glory, for the vessel is nothing without the sustenance inside, the cup nothing unless it is filled. Oh Lord, purify me.

Give me a word, Abba

Thursday, April 15, 2010

Falling in Love...

I was talking to Caramel, Charles, Algernon, Jerome, and Dillon about...well, Beauty and the Beast. Disclaimer: I have nothing against Disney Movies, but am also not one of those people who almost worships them and believes them to be the best part of their Childhood cultural-wise. That being said, Charles was claiming that it was weird for Belle to fall in love with the Beast, because he was a beast. Of course, the whole

"he was rational"

point came up, followed closely by

"Yeah, but you wouldn't expect someone to fall in love with a talking animal from Narnia, would you?"

"No, but they were animals in their very being, and the Beast was a man."

"Yeah, but she couldn't tell that."

It eventually devolved into a discussion of different stories with somewhat strange love stories, and the Hunchback of Notre Dame came up (which, by the way, is on the Index). Then, the Disney Sequel, the Hunchback of Notre Dame II. We asked "Was it Esmereldas' daughter" And then, "Did Quasimodo fall in love with her?" And then Caramel popped the question. No, not that one. She asked:

"Is it possible to fall out of love with someone once you've fallen in love. After all, if it's true love, it'll last forever, right?"

So, that is the question that we discussed, and I will offer my thoughts to the world. Falling in Love, and What is True Love.

Well, if you asked a lot of people today, they would say that if you feel very strongly attracted to someone in one way or another, and maybe even "would do anything for him/her" then that is falling in love. Of course, this buys into the whole Emotionalization of Love. However, Love is primarily an act of the will. Do act for the good of someone else, and in the highest order, even at cost to yourself. However, what is Romantic Love? Because however you look at it, it must involve emotions, else the abuse of romantic love wouldn't be Emotionalization. The devil can never create something, only take what is there and distort it, in this case emphasize the emotional side too much.

Now, infatuation is purely emotional. You find something in another desirable, emotionally, and you become attached to that person, at least internally in some way. Now, there are intellectual attractions too, and these can lead to emotional responses, but generally, they would participate in a broader definition of love, such as friendship. Romantic Love especially seems to have an emotional element, or else sex would not have an emotional effect.

Love is, as I said before, an act of the will to do what is for the good of another. Now when these two things, infatuation and the act of the will coincide, I would call it "On the verge of falling in love" or depending on how much it involves the whole person, intellect, emotions and will, it could in fact be "falling in Love."

Now, for actually falling in love. I believe to have "fallen in love" with someone, you must have determined absolutely to stay with them through life, to live with them in sickness and health, etc. In other words, only through Christian Marriage is the state of "fallen in love" possible. The reason for this, of course, is that God is Love. Completely and totally. So to "fall in love" one must do so through God's Love.

Imagine this: God is his infinite self, yet somehow he's a Solar Object, or Star. We are all rushing toward him with our Trinitarian parts of Intellect, will and Emotions all trying to break away from the rest, or trying to redirect the course. We see others who are also traveling toward God. Now, there are our friends (Those traveling apparently parallel to us), our enemies (Those who are going perpendicular to us) and others around us. Now, there is one person nearby who, it appears, is going to meet up with you when you meet God (Or if you've changed direction, then whatever point you're going to meet at) There are a couple responses. You can: a) use your will, emotions or intellect to pull you into contact with that person before you would naturally meet up. This is unwise. b) You could wait until you reached God to see if you two met. And third, you can use your will intellect or emotions to run away. Now, eventually, you will meet at God and if you both meet God at the same place, you have "fallen in love" However, you may not meet in the same place, in which case, although you thought you were falling in love, you really weren't. Then again, you might just be going along your merry way, traveling parallel to someone, and it turns out that you were really just at such a close angle, that eventually you would meet at God. Sound familiar? So often we confuse friend for lover and lover for friend.

Thus, I would say that it is easy to stop "falling in love", but impossible to "Fall out of Love" for once you are united with your spouse in Christ, there is no backing out.

And then there are those people who kind of draw people into Christ. Since they're in the lead, they don't "collide" with anyone, but instead reach God first and delve deeper into his mystery. These are the priests and religious. And then, when we find the center, we will all be united and no one will marry or be given in marriage. All will be One in the Full Love of Christ. And No one will ever fall out.

1 comment:

Robert Gotcher said...

time to read Love and Responsibility. Lots of correspondence between your comments and KW's thought.